{"id":1382,"date":"2016-10-28T17:15:21","date_gmt":"2016-10-28T21:15:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/?p=1382"},"modified":"2016-10-28T17:15:21","modified_gmt":"2016-10-28T21:15:21","slug":"dealing-with-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/?p=1382","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"fb-root\"><\/div>\n<p>By Greg Urbina <a href=\"http:\/\/aikidoofabq.com\">Aikido of Albuquerque<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8395.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8395-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"img_8395\" width=\"584\" height=\"390\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1378\" srcset=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8395-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8395-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8395-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8395-450x300.jpg 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 584px) 100vw, 584px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\nDuring the first class at AOA\u2019s fall seminar held on October 2016 with Alex Peterson Sensei, Philip Sensei calls me up for ukemi. He gives me the opening and I attack. I\u2019m on the floor, Sensei has me down: only he decides when I can get up. I feel pressure in my arm release, so I get up as fast as I can. It\u2019s Sankyo, Sensei turns, I do everything I can to keep up with him, a pain shoots through my arm. One slip, if I miss one beat, if I put my guard down for one moment, I&#8217;ll be spending the next few months sitting seiza, watching class with my arm in a cast. I\u2019m on the floor again, all my bones still intact. Sensei let\u2019s go of my arm, I need to get back up, Omote is over and it&#8217;s time for Ura. Then three more sets of this. I need to get back up. During this seminar Alex Peterson Sensei said \u201cif you want to be forged you need to go to the hottest part of the fire\u201d. After hearing this I reflected on my own \u00a0personal progression of dealing with conflict.<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/FullSizeRender-3.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/FullSizeRender-3-999x1024.jpg\" alt=\"fullsizerender-3\" width=\"584\" height=\"599\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1376\" srcset=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/FullSizeRender-3-999x1024.jpg 999w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/FullSizeRender-3-293x300.jpg 293w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/FullSizeRender-3-768x787.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 584px) 100vw, 584px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\nI\u2019ve been practicing Aikido for four years now. About three years ago I was a fourth kyu in the Soto Deshi program. I was working as a supervisor at a grocery store making just enough money to get by. I wanted to go to school but I didn\u2019t have the money or the time. The whole reason I originally joined Aikido was to prepare to become a police officer and I needed some college credits to qualify for the academy. I didn\u2019t want to quit Aikido, I loved it, but I needed to work, and I also needed to go to school. I kept thinking about how I could manage doing all three, but things wouldn\u2019t fit. I needed more time and money to go to school. I could not afford to pay for everything if I cut my hours at work. If I cut my hours at the dojo how much would my training suffer? Eventually I was so frustrated I couldn\u2019t even focus on training. I ended up failing my third kyu test and eventually my Sensei\u2019s recommended that I take a break from the Soto Deshi program and focus on work, paying bills, and going to school. I was told the Soto Deshi program will not be going anywhere.<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8277.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8277-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"img_8277\" width=\"584\" height=\"390\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1379\" srcset=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8277-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8277-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8277-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/IMG_8277-450x300.jpg 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 584px) 100vw, 584px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\nI was now able to spend \u00a0more time focusing on work and eventually I became a manager, not easy. I would work on homework late after I got off work. Some days I would sleep for a few hours and try to make the 6 A.M. morning Aikido class, then go to school. My hours at the dojo went up and down, and my training did suffer. I did not make the best grades and I gained about about 40 pounds and took on some debt, but at the end of summer 2016 I got the credits I needed. I stepped down from work and joined the Uchi Deshi program at second kyu.<br \/>\n\tI could have quit Aikido many times and found some cheap excuse to save face, but I would be a lesser person because of it. Every time I take a class, I have some kind of obstacle to overcome. You can call it conflict, you can call it fire, you can call it yourself, but to get through it you need patience and dedication. \u00a0I still don\u2019t know how to take proper ukemi for Sankyo but I&#8217;m getting on the mat tonight.<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Body-arts-17-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Body-arts-17-1-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"body-arts-17\" width=\"584\" height=\"390\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1381\" srcset=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Body-arts-17-1-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Body-arts-17-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Body-arts-17-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Body-arts-17-1-450x300.jpg 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 584px) 100vw, 584px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Greg Urbina Aikido of Albuquerque During the first class at AOA\u2019s fall seminar held on October 2016 with Alex Peterson Sensei, Philip Sensei calls me up for ukemi. He gives me the opening and I attack. I\u2019m on the floor, Sensei has me down: only he decides when I can get up. I feel &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/?p=1382\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Dealing with Conflict&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1382","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2RSKg-mi","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1382","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1382"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1382\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1384,"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1382\/revisions\/1384"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1382"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1382"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biran.birankai.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1382"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}